Your body starts producing hormones you are not used to. This rise in testosterone increases your desire for dominance and power and reduces your empathy.
Empathy
The ability to understand and share the feelings and emotions of another person.
You might feel aggressive towards the other boys at your school as you feel the need to show them you are more powerful than they are. This all comes from primal instinct where males fight each other for the attention of females.
Due to civilisation, this aggression has to be hidden somewhat, and physical violence is not tolerated in society. This doesn’t stop the urge you feel to punch Benny in the face after he teased you about your haircut.
You need to find outlets for your aggression and recognise when the feelings build up to the top of your dam wall. When they tip over the top, you lose control and the rage sets in. This is to be avoided as you end up hurting someone or yourself.
You need an outlet for your aggression and physical activity is the answer. Grab a pair of boxing gloves and beat the shit out of a boxing bag until you exhaust yourself. Go for a ride on your bike, go for a skate and attempt a new trick. Slapping your nuts on a rail is a great way to lose your aggression…
Play your favourite violent video game and kill the shit out of your Fortnite buddies. Release the rage against imaginary foes, not against real people.
Don’t bottle it up as the dam isn’t built to contain the amount of aggression you are pumping out. Don’t aim it at your little sister or your parents. They understand you are going through puberty, but they don’t understand why you have to be such an asshole.
This is where you need to be aware of their emotions and understand how your actions are affecting them. If you’re being a moody, aggressive prick at home you make the whole mood of the family come down. You are not the only person in the house dealing with shit.
Your dad or mum might have had a shit day at work, and they come home to you being a tool bag which makes their day doubly shit and they question what they did wrong. Being a parent doesn’t come with a handbook, so they are winging it as much as you are winging it being a teenager. Respect that fact and channel your aggression away from the family.